What's in the middle of your magic?

I attended a firework display the other night. It was magical. The weather was beautiful and cool. There was music playing and people – kids and families of all ages – were dancing, talking, laughing, and in the most delightful energy.

The fireworks themselves were magical.

One display, in particular, popped out to me. In the middle of the burst was a heart. I was so elated that I had witnessed it and caught in on display. When the fireworks ended, I showed my friend and we simply giggled and awed at it was most joyful to see.

Hearts have been following me and inviting me since about 2012.

The first heart appeared on a sidewalk as I walked to clear my mind and gain clarity around a situation related to being a mom and what that role required of me to bring forth the best version of my child.

Hearts have found me on vacations all over the United States and even in other countries of Mexico, Greece and Italy. It is always most magical to have them appear as they signal, “All is well here.”

Upon seeing that heart in the middle of the burst of electrifying color, I got a sense that there is magic in the middle of such joyous occasions. Literally, it feels as if our heart could explode – like a firework – with joy, peace, excitement, gratitude and such.

The world seems endless and infinite in these moments. We feel like we can rise to great heights and stand atop of our mountains and do what needs to be done. We appear to be breathing in a new charged energy force that activates an electric current within us to move leaps and bounds…and make those mountains move.

And so, what happens to that magic in the middle when the moment is one of pain? Is there magic in the middle of your pain as well?

The answer is simple. Yes.

We learn far more when we experience a heavier emotion like pain, grief, sadness, angst, than we do when we experience lighter emotions like joy, peace, calm, and excitement.

Most individuals do not understand nor do they want to experience the pain long enough to feel the magic in the middle.

Transformation is challenging to our senses and even more challenging to our mind. The mind wants to keep you safe and free from harm. The mind controls how you see a person, an event, or situation as harmful if it is in direct contrast.

It is the contrast we are afraid of and not the actual person or situation.

Randy Pausch – author of The Last Lecture – said, “The brick walls are not meant to keep you away. They show up so that you can discern how much you want what you want.”

As human beings with a divine essence, we all want the exact thing. That thing?

To be free in love.

I think of this as love consciousness.

So when our experiences show up as pain, our mind conjures up a theory (or story) requiring a need to safeguard.

You only need to feel an emotion for about 90 seconds for it to dissolve its energy. We often do not want to feel the pain of a challenge that long and, as a result, that nugget of emotional energy gets lodged into our body.

It becomes like a firework that does not ever burst into magic.

Although the heat of the emotion certainly does pulsate with intensity. That intensity will eventually come out as dis-ease taking on a range of actions not really appropriate or healthy.

So, how can you get to the middle of the magic in your pain?

A very easy-to-do 5 step process:

• Quiet the body. (This may require you to clean out your life so you can get still. Too much outside noise inhibits the inside from becoming quiet.)

• Breathe. (Each inhale expands the space to inquire and each exhale releases what is no longer needed. This is a way to ready your internal programming system to operate freely beyond conditioning.)

• Feel. (Give the pain permission to be witnessed. Remember 90 seconds will result in more personal power.)

• Extract the wisdom. (Listen to what that pain wants you to know. You have a highly advanced system of intuition that will give you insight and understanding when you begin to listen to it.)

• Release. (That energy of emotion does not wish to stay lodged in your body. Imagine it lifting away like a hot air balloon.)

Let me also say, if you have severe debilitating trauma or experiences of deep grief, I do NOT suggest you do these steps alone. I highly encourage you to find a therapy coach who can help you follow these steps as reference points and activate your own sense of hope.

You always have the decision making control to decide what to do and what not to do.

Please be advised by a medical practitioner if you have any concerns.

Feel free to reach out to me at kristi@kristipeck.com. I offer mind-body sessions to activate your own healing power.